I know a few divorced chinese ladies with kids.
The ladies are very pretty. (They were kind of college
department-flower years ago.) Their husbands started
companies years ago.
After divorce, these ladies ended up dating/marrying
decent white guys. Seems like good-quality Chinese guys
are just not interested in them.
So I do think there is quite some difference
in Chinese/White brains regarding the ladies' past
history and their kids. This is just a hard-cold-reality.
Not need to disguise.